Don’t Sweat It…Tips And Tricks For The 2018 Resolution Breakers (And How To Get Back On Point)!

It’s that time of year again.  Everyone is talking about New Year resolutions. The internet is covered with posts on New Year goals, and friends and family are asking everyone about what they want to stick to for 2018.

Each year you promise yourself that you will do this, and you won’t do that. Then most of us stop.

And if you stop, you feel guilty and beat yourself up for not sticking to it. And the cycle begins again.

Let me share with you a quick story…

Two years ago one of our patients Robin came to see me mid-January and said:

“This year my resolution is that by New Years Eve I’ll finally be able to set a resolution that’s NOT to lose weight!”

I asked her why she didn’t make a different resolution this year, and Robin said it was because she really, badly needed to lose 30-40 pounds first.

“How long have you been setting this resolution for?” I asked, “About 10 years” she said, “I won’t be happy until I lose 30-40 pounds, so I’ve really got to stick to it this year.”

Does this kind of resolution sound familiar to you too?

Many of us think getting motivated to reach a goal requires tough-love.  Setting goals we think we should do to fit in to be ‘accepted’ usually come from a place of feeling shame or not feeling “good enough”.

It’s not your fault if you do! Fitness and fat-loss are advertised in our faces everywhere.

Despite the fact that these kind of goals have the opposite affect on motivation than we hope, most people continue to set them, and get frustrated when their resolutions have gone out the window come January 8th.

By the time Robin walked into my clinic that day, she had 10 odd years of heavy guilt and shame weighing down her goal to lose weight.

So I flat out told her she was going to find it hard to reach that goal again if she kept the same goal and suggested she make her goal forgiveness for not losing it yet.

“That’s all you want me to do?!” she asked looking confused.

“Yes! That’s all!”

Why? Because year after year when you have the same goal and don’t reach it, each year it becomes harder to believe you’ll ever accomplish it, and each year you feel worse that it goes unaccomplished.

So here’s my big tip for you this year when it comes to your resolutions:

How about we make a pact to be kinder to ourselves instead of setting out on a mission to improve ourselves with goals that if we stumble on and fall over, we beat ourselves up over.

If you find yourself slipping off track with the goals you’ve set – forgive yourself.

You haven’t failed just because it’s mid-January and you’ve already stopped. You can get back on track and pick yourself up.

Of course it’s easier said than done. Being kind to yourself is a difficult thing to do. But while it might take a lot more self-reflection than counting calories and drinking green juices, giving yourself endless chances is the path to successful goal setting in any area of your life.

So have a plan, set mini goals to achieve your overall goal. Celebrate the achievements you make along the way and know it’s OK to slip up, you’re human, I slip up all the time!

You’ll be far more likely to stick to the healthier habits you’ve set for yourself this year.

What goals have you set yourself for 2018?

Andrew Dombek, PT, MSPT, CMTPT, CGFI

Andrew Dombek, PT, MSPT, CMTPT, CGFI

Owner and Founder at AID Performance Physical Therapy
Andrew Dombek is a nationally known Physical Therapist and founder of Northern Virginia's Leading Private Physical Therapy Specialist for athletes in their teens,30s, 40sand 50s, who want to keep healthy and active.

You might know Andrew from his early days working in downtown Washington D.C. where he was one of the former physical therapist for the finest athletes and performers in town performing at the Kennedy Center, in shows like Aida (The Timeless Love Story), The Producers, and the Washington Ballet.

Andrew (having been through many injuries throughout out his life), is a rare expert in understanding the psyche of returning to your sport after injury. Helping people stay active and giving back to his community are his passions. These characteristics have helped Andrew become an expert Physical Therapist and his Clinic to become the fastest growing PT clinic in Loudoun County.Over the last several yearshas become the premier physical therapy practice for runners in Northern, Virginia.Where the local running groups like the Ashburn Chapter of Mom's Run This Town as well as the high schools in his area like Broad Runand Briar Woods have retained AID Performance Physical Therapy for treating their runners and athletes.
Andrew Dombek, PT, MSPT, CMTPT, CGFI